The Return of...

Is it safe to come out? If so, this is the return of ME.

My youngest daughter informed me last night that I hadn't blogged for a looooong time. It wasn't news to me. Throughout November, December, the holidays, weekends, nights, I've been working to finish a book due Feb. 1. No time to blog, and barely enough time to use the whip to get some characters in line. I'm still not sure that they've been whipped well, but since I don't have two years or even six months to put them away in a closet, it'll have to do.

Has anyone noticed a difference yet between 2009 and 2010? Anything other than that the picture on the calendar has changed or that there are no phone numbers in the new pocket calendar that we females must carry with us, should we not be able to push the buttons on our cell phones because our sculptured nails are too long. (Note: I don't have sculptured nails, but those buttons are tiny!) But from where I sit, so far this year is the same as 2008 and 2009, running together in my mind, along with the past 9 or 10 years. Why is it that I can remember details of everyday things from high school and even as far back as when I was three years old, but I can't remember what I got for my birthday last year? Oh, wait! I quit having birthdays!

Because I've been blogging lately about goals at Bits & Bytes and on the Harlequin American blog (links are on the right), I'll close with a few hints I've learned along the way. Goals are not resolutions. They are something we work on, little by little, until we reach them, only to discover another goal is waiting. Only make a goal that we can control and doesn't depend on the actions or thoughts or opinions of others. This is my life, your life. Let's work hard to set good goals and work even harder to attain them so we can make life the best!

New Year Goals and Resolutions

Watching the ball drop in Times Square is over. The ringing out of the old year and the ringing in of the new is done. We've entered not only a new year, but a new decade. Boy, did that 10 years go by fast! The big question now is are we going to call this year two thousand ten, or will it be twenty ten?

Along with the new year and the new decade and what to call it, there's that R word. No, this time R isn't for Rejection (that's a whisper, because we don't like to say it too loudly), it's for Resolution. Just the thought gives me shivers. Typing it makes me queasy. In fact, I so abhor the word that I haven't made one of those R things for at least fifteen years. And even though the last resolution I made was kept and carried through, I don't intend to do it again.

Instead, I set goals. Maybe they don't feel as rigid as resolutions, or maybe I don't feel quite so disappointed when I don't reach them, but I think most of all it's because it involves more thinking and planning. And then comes the doing. I freely admit that I'm about as far from being a structered person who follows a set schedule as, well, as Pluto is from the Earth. Sometimes I wish I was, but I've accepted that I'm not and do my best to work with that in mind.

When it comes to Goals, there are four kinds of people:
1. Those who set goals and work hard to meet them, often succeeding
2. Those who never set goals
3. Those who set goals but don't know how to meet them
4. Those who don't know how to set goals

Those who fall into the #1 group can go play now. Those who fall in #'s 2, 3, and 4? Pay attention.

There's a key to setting goals that's taken me many years to learn. That key is to neither over or underestimate what can be done. It takes paying attention to discover your comfort zone, and then set the goal. With some goals, it's good to set them just a little higher than comfortable. Don't set a goal that is not within your control. Goals can't rely on others, only self.

With a goal set, the next step is to decide how to reach it. Bite-sized pieces is best. For instance, if I have a book to complete, I know that if I write 3 pages a day, I can finish it in 2 months. I also know that if something happens and I can't write a day or two now and then, I can make up those missed pages easily. In 2009, I wrote as many as 20 pages in one day. In 2008, I wrote 27 pages in a day. But that, I know, isn't the norm. 3 pages a day will get me within the one-chapter-written-per-week realm. Do I quit at 3 pages? No. Why? Experience has taught me that there will be days when not even a page will be written because of things I can't control. Those "things" cannot include I don't feel like it. In fact, it's often those I-don't-feel-like-it days that I end up writing the most, because once I place my backside in the chair and my hands on the keyboard, then force myself to write, I discover that I suddenly do feel like it. It may not start out as my best writing, but it's writing and it can be fixed.

The last step is the easiest and the hardest. You see, Nike is my friend. Just Do It. No excuses, no whining, just doing.

With all that in mind, I have to take my own advice. It's time to work on the three proposals I want to have ready to go in *gulp* just over two weeks.

Happy New Year! And the very best of luck on your goals for 2010! (You do have goals, right? No? Then get busy and set some!)

2010 Greetings

May 2010 be a year of

Happiness, Love, and Prosperity for all!